Soft Fashions & Seneca’s “Avoid the Crowd”

WHAT HAVE I BEEN READING?

Seneca Selected LettersI’ve been avoiding the crowd, and reading Seneca on avoiding the crowd.

It started in London.

I was at Foyles (the big bookstore), and I was very tired, because I had not had coffee:  I had jumped out of bed and taken the tube to Leicester Square so I could beat the crowds at the National Portrait Gallery, the National Gallery, and possibly Foyles.

I knew there would be coffee at Foyles, so I browsed and browsed and browsed first, and found a huge selection of Latin books in the foreign language department, and ended up buying a paperback, Select Letters of Seneca edited by Walter C. Summers.

I was delighted, because I can sight-read Seneca.  I know most of the vocabulary, though not always the use in the Silver Age.

So I went into the bookstore’s coffeehouse part, no idea what floor I was on, because this is a huge bookstore, and sat down at the coffee bar with a huge cup of coffee.  And I fell into Seneca.

Here is a rough translation of the opening lines:

What do I think especially you should avoid? you ask.  The crowd.  You cannot yet entrust yourself to it safely.  I certainly will confess my own feebleness:  for I never bring back the morals I went out with.  The peace I have made by myself is thrown into disorder, that which I fled has returned.

And here is the Latin:

Quid tibi vitandum praecipue existimes quaeris? turbam. Nondum illi tuto committeris. Ego certe confitebor imbecillitatem meam: numquam mores quos extuli refero; aliquid ex eo quod composui turbatur, aliquid ex iis quae fugavi redit

lt simply made lovely reading.

The National Gallery and the National Portrait Gallery, both at Trafalgar Square, were a little less crowded in the morning (I went twice) than in the afternoon.  Still, it was very crowded, and I didn’t take notes (which I always do at museums), because it was simply too distracting.  Everybody stays for a few seconds in front of a picture and then takes off!   You end up getting joggled.   (I bought a book about the National Gallery; I suppose it beats my notes, but not really, because I like to read the art historians AND have my impressions.)

Oh, well, it was better than the crowds at the mall.  I spent $125 on a watch last time I was there, and I could have bought one for $25.  It just goes to show I get mesmerized in crowds, and not for the better.  Art books are fine, yes; expensive watches that aren’t even jewelry, no.

Another thing I love about the Seneca letter:  he quotes three philosophers on the crowd.

Here is another rough translation, followed by the Latin:

Democritus said, “To me, one man is the crowd, and the crowd is one man.”  Another man also answered well, whoever he was (the author’s identity is doubtful), when asked what was the good of so great an attention to an art that would reach a very few: “The few are enough for me,” he said, “one is enough, none is enough.”  And, excellently, Epicurus said this third thing, when he wrote to one of his colleagues about his studies: ‘I do not write these things for the many, but for you, for each of us is enough of an audience for the other.”

And the Latin:

Democritus ait, ‘unus mihi pro populo est, et populus pro uno’. [Bene et ille, quisquis fuit – ambigitur enim de auctore -, cum quaereretur ab illo quo tanta diligentia artis spectaret ad paucissimos perventurae, ‘satis sunt’ inquit ‘mihi pauci, satis est unus, satis est nullus’. Egregie hoc tertium Epicurus, cum uni ex consortibus studiorum suorum scriberet: ‘haec’ inquit ‘ego non multis, sed tibi; satis enim magnum alter alteri theatrum sumus’.

I avoid the crowd, but I am still influenced.  The culture seeps in, with its new attitudes…

And that is one very good reason to read the classics.  It keeps you up with the best in thinking, so you don’t go in for “crowdsourcing” or some horrible modern thing…

AND NOW HERE I AM ON FASHION:

Fashion:  But What If You Use Your Head?

Fashion: But What If You Use Your Head?

I am not fashionable.  I have a wardrobe of jeans and sweaters.  They’re nice jeans, mind you.  My idea of fashion is to wear black or very dark navy jeans with a cardigan sweater or what is, no doubt, an out-of-date peasant top.  I own only one dress, a black Liz Claiborne  I abandoned on the floor of the closet circa 1996.  I last wore it to an awards dinner.  I had forgotten all about this award actually, because it was kind of a fake award, awarded by a PR magazine for some deed I don’t even remember, and I didn’t get a plaque.  If I don’t have a plaque, how can I remember?  My picture was printed in the magazine instead.  My mother was the only one who liked the photo.  And I didn’t even retrieve it when my mother died last August.  In fact, I didn’t remember it until now.

So I’ve worn the sturdy jeans–not cheap jeans, mind you–for decades, and they’ve never done me harm.  Even my mother admitted a few years ago that, as far as she could see from watching The Talk and The View,  jeans were the fashion, with the addition of high heels and a nice top.  I certainly don’t have the high heels.

In the last six months, I have navigated the high fashion districts of Washington, D.C., and London in jeans.

Well, not  fashionable.  I did go to the Kennedy Center in jeans and a cardigan. But then Washington is a bit dowdy, isn’t it?   And I went everywhere in London in jeans and cardigans, though I didn’t quite go anywhere fashionable.  There IS fashion in London.

Today I was less fashionable than usual.  Have you ever had a day when you needed to wear soft clothing?

I got up today and needed to wear everything soft, but I couldn’t spend another minute in my pajamas after taking the garbage out and having a conversation with my neighbors in my pajamas.  Yes, yes, almost warm enough to garden, but not quite yet.  The snapdragons are already sold out at the neighborhood store.

When I got back in, I closed the door and really could not believe I’d had a conversation in pajamas with holes in one knee and a rather peculiar print top (llamas on it!) that never quite goes with anything.

I put on hospital scrubs and an old sweatshirt.  I just didn’t care that everything was wrinkled.  Criss-cross wrinkled, like all garments that live on the floor of the closet.

I haven’t worn these scrubs since maybe 2010.

They’re so comfortable!

Sometimes one needs a day of wearing soft clothing.

And maybe to drink a lot of water and have chicken soup, too.

The Nook and Fashionistas

Barnes and Nobles EarnsI read in PW Daily that Nook sales are down.  Barnes & Noble will continue to manufacture e-readers like the GlowLight, but they are no longer designing new tablets. A spokesperson said,

The new Nook management team is focused on managing the business efficiently so that it becomes financially strong while at the same time aggressively moving to drive revenue growth.”

Whatever the f— that means.

And in January The New York Times reported that digital sales at B&N during the holiday season in 2013 dropped 60% from the year before.  In 2009 the Nook had 25% of the e-market.  Now it holds 20%.

The Nook is a very fast, good machine.

We have Nook HD tablets at our house. We deliberately didn’t buy Kindles, because we wanted to throw some of our business to B&N, our bricks-and-mortar store.

I have found so many books at B&N over the years:  Peter Stothard’s On the Spartacus Road, Karen E. Bender’s A Town of Empty Rooms, Rebecca Mead’s My Life in Middlemarch, and, most recently, William Gibson’s Zero History.

And I wouldn’t necessarily find these books at Amazon.  I’m not saying I couldn’t, but they probably wouldn’t come up on the screen.

If they stop making the Nook , will another company take it over?

But on another note, I buy too many e-books.  Do you ever miss real books?  I recently bought Marjorie Kinnan Rawling’s The Yearling as an e-book.  It has the original paintings by N. C. Wyeth, and I was excited that I could see the illustrations on the Nook.  But wouldn’t it really be nicer to have the book?  I also recently purchased D. J. Taylor’s Kept as an e-book, and very much wish I’d bought the real book because I will reread ait. The same with Elizabeth Spencer’s  novels:  I should have bought the real books.

I wonder if others are feeling the same way.

Carolyn G. Heilbrun, author of Writing a Woman's Life & the Amanda Cross mysteries

Carolyn G. Heilbrun, author of Writing a Woman’s Life & the Amanda Cross mysteries

Angela Neustatter vs. Carolyn G. Heilburn.   At 50something, I am hardly a fashionista.  If I want to wear trendy baby-doll frocks, I assure you I will, but if I do you’ll know I’ve gone insane.  I’ve already worn low-cut t-shirts for the last decade (inability to find others with higher necks), and my dermatologist does not care for the sunburn.

One lovely thing about the turning point of fifty is the independence from fashion.  You can grow your hair, stop dyeing it, throw out your designer dresses (since mine were from Younkers, they don’t qualify as designer), and wear whatever you want.

In other words, you can still have orgasms (have them daily, according to a very funny book I read on menopause),  but you do not have to spend as much money to earn them.

Independence is the key word.

So I was annoyed to read an article in The Observer, “Forget beige – meet the women who are ageing with attitude.”

If we can’t wear beige, can we at least wear black?

Angela Neustatter, the 70ish author of The Year I Turn…: A Quirky A-Z about Age, does not believe in aging gracefully, i.e., growing gray, etc.  She does look very young in her picture.

The article says, “Apart from a few “frumpy years” in her 50s, when she lost confidence in her right to wear leopardskin tights, author Angela Neustatter says she has never let age define her.”

And I thought,  So I have to look ridiculous at 50, 60, and 70, too?  Leopardskin tights do not look good on anybody.

Neustatter apparently believes aging women’s invisibility is caused by not following fashion.

Although, like all women, I suffer from fashion insecurity, I very much disagree that youth is the ticket to growing older.  I prefer the philosophy of Carolyn G. Heilbrun in The Last Gift of Time:  Life Beyond Sixty.

Trying to develop a crossroads–the point at which a woman has lived thirty years of adult life in one mode and must discover a new mode for the second thirty years likely to be granted her–I wanted to suggest, to (if I am honest) urge women to see this new life as different, as a time requiring the questioning of all previous habits, as, inevitable, a time of profound change.”

Not a Sweater Girl

Emma Peel (Diana Rigg) in The Avengers:  Was that the idea?

Emma Peel (Diana Rigg) in The Avengers: Was that the idea?

Everything in my wardrobe is black or gray.

Because I can wear that little black dress anywhere and be au fait?

Because I’ll look like Emma Peel (Diana Rigg) in The Avengers?

The effect is, alas, nunnish.  I look pale.

I must replenish the wardrobe.  Just look at this sweater drawer.

  • Black turtleneck, with hole in shoulder.  How did it rip?  It’s not on a seam; it’s just a gap. Must make gap look intentional.  With scissors?  Bad idea.  Can’t wear black in house because it attracts cat hair.
  • Black cardigan, with strange little flower sewn at top button. So much cat hair clings to it that I will have to de-cat-hair with a whole roll  of masking tape.
  • Old black turtleneck, once size medium, now so stretched out and boxy it still more or less fits.  But can’t be worn in house because of cat hair.
  • Gray cardigan, with same strange flower as black sweater.  Thank God I have something to wear.
  • Then there are the thick Fair Isle wool sweaters that I’ll wear when it’s five below.  They’re too hot most of the time.

And so I go to the department store to replenish my wardrobe.

I tell my ride it will be five minutes.  I shop fast.

Oh, no.

No!

Hundreds of baggy cardigan sweaters without buttons hang on hangers.   What is the point of a cardigan without buttons?  The point of a cardigan is to button up if cold, unbutton if warm.  I want a sweater, not a thing to wear over a silk top.

If I don’t want to wear a cardigan I can wear a…cat sweatshirt!  Or a pumpkin sweatshirt or a Thanksgiving sweatshirt.  My mother gave me many such comfortable sweatshirts.  But I have one rule:  NEVER WEAR THEM OUT OF THE HOUSE.  Last time we went out for pizza, a group of elderly women were wearing cat sweatshirts.  I desperately cling to middle age and have decided that even black sweaters with holes are better than cat sweatshirts.

All right, I find a few sweaters.

I try on a fuzzy shawl-neck sweater which gets tangled in my earrings.

I try on a fuzzy turtleneck that seems to be made of intentionally linked diamond-shaped holes, and it also gets tangled in my earrings.

I try on a vaguely ’80s-looking gray sweatshirt with studs sewn on the front.  It falls off the shoulder, not a good look for me.  I realize somebody in a heavy metal band might have worn it in the ’80s, or  Jennifer Beals in Flashdance.

Finally I buy three warm heavy cotton zip tops that are not fashionable but at least look warm and anonymous.

Then I wander through the handbag department and almost buy a $395 Coach bag, which I can’t afford, and then almost buy a $165 Sak Bag for 40% off, which I also can’t afford.  Neither bag suits my bicycling needs, so I get out of there before I’m hypnotized and open a new charge card so I can get 20% off and…